When you are on a healing journey and get a flare it can get you off track. However, you don’t need to let it get you too off course. Here is a short guide to how to get back on track in your life when you are having a flare.
Witness and welcome it.
Step one is to welcome it. Say, “hello pain (or burning or whatever the sensation is) I notice you. You are here in my life again”. Just witness it and welcome it. Welcoming it does not mean you want it it just means you witness it.
Create SSS- stillness space & silence – and breathe!
You need to get quiet with you and just breathe. Notice and breathe and allow whatever to come up. Allow emotions to flow including sadness maybe crying. Anger may come up so you may need to scream. Frustration may happen and you want to hit a pillow.
Notice your thoughts.
During a flare loads of catastrophizing may go on in your mind. Remember, you are not your thoughts and all your thoughts are not true. They are just thoughts and you have power over your thoughts and you can change your thoughts.
Write down your thoughts. Then for each thought that does not serve your highest good write down a thought that does serve your highest good.
Combine your new thought with a high level emotion
Next, think that thought that does serve your highest good while feeling love, gratitude &/or joy (a high level emotion. Yes, this process involves a bit of faking it until you make it but it really does is help you reprogram your subconscious and retrain your brain.
Commit to radical daily self-care
This one is huge!!! From morning to night how can you help your whole mind body emotion soul system come into balance. It may be waking and setting intentions for the day, visioning, meditation, using food as your medicine, getting out in nature, saying NO to everything that does not serve you, getting to bed super early, only surrounding yourself with people who rise you up.
When you get off track witness it and choose to get right back on track.
No judgement. No beating yourself up.
I use these tools plus more and in more detail with my patients and clients and with myself. I’m currently in a flare myself so reminding myself of what I need to do to take care of my whole being is essential.